Sad news from Alyssa: one of her roommates, Stephanie, attempted to
commit suicide last Wednesday evening. She was taken away from the dorm
by an ambulance while Alyssa was attending her night class. Alyssa knew
that Steph was "threatening" to do something bad, but what she did not know was
that when Stephanie made the threat she had already taken 70+ ibuprofen. Steph's
mom arrived from Ohio at midnight on Wednesday while Steph was still in the
hospital. I can't begin to imagine how terrifying that mother's drive must have been.
And now there is a lot of bad drama going on amongst the other roommates - they are mad at Alyssa for not leaving her night class and for not skipping sorority activities during all the excitement - and after telling Alyssa that she was heartless and that she needed "therapy", those two girls left campus to stay at Halie's house for the weekend, leaving Alyssa alone in the dorm for three days. Alyssa is so angry with them for making such a stink about "her" when what they should be concerned about is Stephanie's well-being.
As it stands, Stephanie was in the hospital for 3 days under psych observation. The school wanted her to be moved to a psych clinic for at least another week, but when she was released from the hospital, her mom took her home to Ohio. It doesn't sound like she will be allowed to return to the dorms, but whether she is kicked out of school is still up for debate. The RA has been in meetings with the faculty to discuss the options, and Steph's family is scheduled to meet with the Dean tomorrow. The school requested that Alyssa attend a mandatory counselling session this week to give her "official" report as to what happened on Wednesday. She also has to meet with the Dean to discuss the options and to share her thoughts on what happened. Needless to say, my daughter is not happy about being put in this situation.
All in all, a HUGE mess.
Alyssa is plugging along with her classes as best as she can
considering the circumstances, but she is pretty shook up. Sidenote: this is the same roommate who had
to be transported by an ambulance last semester due to binge drinking and
alcohol poisoning... so she was already on probation, which [I hope] will factor in to
the decision of her being allowed to stay in school. I swear to all that is
holy - Alyssa is a magnet to weird friends. She is always getting put in these odd
situations. I almost
wish she'd find a boyfriend so that she would not get so involved in the girl
drama. Okay... not really... I don't want her to find a boyfriend... not yet, anyway.
As I was trying to help Alyssa handle this crisis (via text messages and phone calls), I was once again reminded why being a teenager is so very difficult. These kids have pressure from all sides. I told Alyssa that this experience will make her stronger and will build character... and with those words, I thought I sounded like my mother! That is what I've become... my mother. Thankfully, my mom is a saint and if I come even a tiny bit close to offering the love and support to my children that she has offered me - I will have done my job.
Girl drama. I hate it... I hated it when Alyssa was living at home, and I hate it even more now - because the truth of the matter is that the older the girls are, the bigger the drama becomes.